Monthly Archives: June 2019


One of the most important people in your life should BE YOU! When people are important to you, you treat them kindly, speak words of encouragement, motivate them, love on them, care for them etc. So why am I so hard on myself sometimes? Beating myself up for failures. Cussing myself out for wrong decisions made. Feeling sorry for myself and making excuses to and for myself. It just shouldn’t BE like this.

I’ve learned that when I am so hard on myself that I begin To BE hard on others and not in a good way. It’s almost like the things I am disappointed in myself for I project and judge others for. This goes back to my BE Accepted keynote.

We all know that the way we love and treat ourselves will BE how we are with others! We can’t truly BE for others if we can’t BE for ourselves!

This is why it is important to motivate and encourage and inspire ourselves when we get into those conversations with ourselves. Love and BE Kind to ourselves. Give ourselves grace. Understand we are only human and make mistakes and can shift and turn things around to BE Better!

Conversations with ourselves will always BE difficult because we want better for ourselves and don’t want to see, well, feel ourselves going through emotional distress from decision we’ve made that didn’t work out or actions that have us rethinking our purpose. Conversations with ourselves can become easier, however, if we just choose to be a little more patient with ourselves and reverse some of the negative things we say to ourselves with positivity and actually make the moves to make things better. Just whatever you do, don’t stop talking to yourself because YOU will become suspect. Lol.

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Yes I’m talking about masturbation. No one knows your body like you know your body so why not explore it? Learn what you like and don’t like, your spots and how they should be touched. Your breathing and synchronized movement. Every inch!

I have And it is very liberating!

The only thing in the past that has happened that i was afraid would happen is no one has been able to please me the way i can please myself. Today I am Not worried about it. Because it’s not one hundred percent their job to please me! I get To enjoy and to teach, and guide and have fun and BE Pleased while pleasing! Now I just Have to get out there and have sex which I don’t have much of. Whose next? Just know you have a lot to live up to. So get to practicing, on yourself!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Do I really Need to say more? Yes I do! Lol. I’m not really the hookup kind of guy. Have I hooked up? Of course! One thing I have Learned is if and when I hook Up the person usually doesn’t stay on my mind and never makes it to my heart. Well wait! They have in the past but it was because I settled into the and tried to create something out of what was meant to be fun or maybe meant to be something more but because it moved so quickly sexually, I just Couldn’t get to a serious point with them. I digress!

There is something about a person who is so into me sexually at first and wants to get involved physically before really getting into my mind and who I am that turns me away from seeing them as someone I could Date long term. Now again don’t get me wrong I don’t Mind fun here and there and actually have been keen on the idea of having a FWB, but I know how to separate the fun from the ones I actually want to go further with!

This new separation of categories has Allowed for me not to be in my head so much about who is who and what will be, settling into unwanted mess and being misguided into something completely made up.

I’m many ways it puts me in total control. How do I know a person is more of someone I want To date than just a playmate? I feel The urge to let go of the control and share the control! In the mean time I get to DATE and PLAY and just BE!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Almost everyone wants love, it’s human nature! Even those who have been hurt and decide they “will never fall in love again” find themselves craving for their opposite.

I used to BE the one who was “over it” and would “never again”. Until I found Myself in total loneliness because I separated Myself from all possibilities including friendships. When I got back out of the cave of solitude I found myself always in a relationship and one that I was Just settling in. I would find one thing I appreciated About someone and seal the deal and hope that all other things would eventually align and that a real relationship would bloom from the almost nothing that existed. This only brought resentment and left me lonely again only this time with a few years spent that could have been used to actually get to know myself and what I wanted And needed in a relationship and patiently waiting for that right one.

Lessons have been learned and great people met. So I truly don’t regret my past relationships. They have allowed me to know myself more and to appreciate alone time and preparation time for me to BE the best lover to the one who is waiting for me and I for them.

The question is often asked on dating sites and by friends and potential daters alike, “why is a great guy like you still single” and the true answer is, I know What I want And I will No longer settle for what I think I want! I have No types, I have No expectations, I have Standards, and I have Wants and needs and when all of these things align and my heart says yes, I too will Say yes!

Until then? I get To have fun and make connections and have a good time and just BE!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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Balance is key. You ever met someone who is used to always having their way and get all bent out of shape with control when things don’t go their way? They look crazy! Oh, you don’t know anyone like that? Must BE YOU. You don’t see a problem with it? That’s cool too.

Personally for me I appreciate the No’s. The universe/God has a way of protecting your best interest or guiding you to the “right” yes’s in your life. I like Guidance!

Besides I get To tell myself yes. Yes to personal time, yes to health, yes to mental stability, yes to love, yes to BE! So anytime I hear a no from someone I simply find a way to tell myself YES! If I get told No I didn’t get The acting role, I tell Myself Yes I get To audition for another. If I get rejected and told no to a date I tell myself yes I get To set a date up with someone else. “No keone, you may not have any of my candy” …. I tell myself Yes and go buy my own!

Hear me! The No’s are never the final answer! Besides look at the ones telling you no, are they ever worth not saying yes to yourself?

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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