Monthly Archives: April 2019

I was sitting in a restaurant of a hotel in NYC with my friend Ryian (guess I’ll have to pay her for mentioning her name, hmmm .50 cent? Sounds right lol. She is a really good friend who is also a flight attendant and so she reached out to hang out with me during her layover. We are pretty close. So imagine the conversations we have. Well I remember I was talking about one of the guys I had been dating and how he is (enter a bunch of complaints here) and as I was complaining I could hear myself and it was starting to irritate me that i was complaining about someone I was only dating. I only knew him for a minute and only a few dates. I stopped complaining and said, “you know what it’s not even that serious” my friend Ryian who is like me a good snap back says without a beat “if it’s not that serious then why are you being so serious”.

I’m going to claim this keynote and told her i was but technically it’s a “Nichols for your thought”. I cant wait to call her and tell her I just came up with this for her! Her last name is Nichols. Wow! Anyway.

She was right. I now apply this quote to every little battle that comes my way. If it’s not that serious then I dont need to fight the fight or get all over worked or uptight. Let people have the last word sometimes, don’t let little issues get you bent out of shape. You have the power to allow it all to roll off your back, you give your power away when you let little things bend you out of shape. The big things that are serious you get to approach and clear away. BE Elevated and rise above the bullshit that is not for you. Let go of minuet things and BE Elevated. BE Elevated above the men and the women that don’t own the title in your life as your opposite. Let stress be their home as you continue to BE Elevated in your mansion of freedom! Or, move in with them. What other choice is there? 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Today I woke up with almost all of my insecurities weighing down on me. 

I instantly visited my naked body in the mirror and started with a beat up of how much “water weight” (lol) I was holding, how my lips, and my neck, and my chest and my belly button that is healing from hernia repair and my hair and this and that. That only lasted 30 seconds. I have trained my mind to let go of negative thoughts in the moment and replace them with the positive. The things I dont like about myself make it really easy to see the things I actually LOVE about myself. The biggest things I love about me is that regardless of how imperfect I am or how many flaws show up, I accept that THIS is me and I get to BE Bold and celebrate me for who and where I am. Things I don’t like can be worked on should I choose. 

I am confident that no one is me. There are things about me that people wish they had or have done, or embodied. People fantasize about me. I am loved. I am sexy to some, I am the best thing that has happened to many, I am beautiful, I am interesting, unique, witty, hilarious, fun, outgoing, authentic and powerful! 

There is no one who is you! You are all of these things as well. Know that people that you think are all that show up as not enough for others. The saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder is very true. We are not perfect to some and to others we are God’s gift!

Love yourself! Work on your insecurities but BE Bold in who you are during the process. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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There is another keynote that is similar in saying that no one cares for a know it all especially when they don’t know it all and trust me if you are a real human being, YOU DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING! 

However there are so many different people in the world that are knowledgeable in areas others are not and many of them have written books, created projects, shared ideas in seminars etc. knowledge is accessible to you in many different forms and we should take advantage and learn as much as we possibly can. You have to BE Open to learning and can’t approach everything with the notion that you already know it all. 

Most importantly there are many things that you may not know about yourself. Things that are holding you back from going for your dreams, keeping you resenting someone and not BEing Forgiving. Things from your past that you have blocked out from the forefront of your mind but is still rooted deep in your heart and triggers you from time to time but you don’t even realize what is truly triggering you, all you know is you are annoyed. There are reasons relationships are not working for you. A reason for all the whys and how’s that you just can’t put your finger on. It’s important to find out what those things are. Self awareness programs and workshops are a great place to start (example would be Momentum Education). Maybe seeing a therapist or even just talking to the people who have “wronged” you or talking to a friend or love one about things that have you bound. By talking out loud and sometime writing emotions and feeling out in say a journal or doing the processes or activities within a workshop can help to shed some light on what may or may not be holding you back. 

Hey Power is not something that just is. You create and stand in your power. The only way you can truly BE powerful is to know the things you do not know and continue to learn more. To BE Powerful is to BE Able to say you don’t have all the answers but willing to research. To BE Powerful means that you are aware with not having your shit completely together but knowing how to hold it together and that’s whether you hold it together in your own or really step Into true power and realizing you cannot do all alone and leaning in on support. Just Start opening up to learning from others and realizing that you may know a lot of things in life but you will not know everything in one life time and to realize this and to BE Understanding of this is to BE Powerful! There’s nothing more weak than a person who talks about knowing it all and turns up with all the wrong answers. Is that you? 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Pause! There is such thing as stepping on people to get ahead in life. Using folks because of their status is disgusting and will always come back to bite you. Keep in mind!

I have a lot of friends in the public industry. From actors, to singers, politicians, you name it. Even some celebrities. I myself am an actor who has done pretty well, though not a celebrity. At some point my career began to slow up and I started to get comfortable in other areas of life and became lost and brand new when it came to really seeking out my dreams. I never really wanted to ask for help because I didn’t want handouts, become one of those people who use my friends statuses to grow my own or step on anyone. Instead let’s just watch all of my friends live and get what they deserve while I day dream in the clouds and have nightmares through the night. 

I was recently talking to a friend on a flight I was working. Yes the same friend from the last keynote. He was talking about wanting to become an actor and not knowing how to start, where to begin. Out flew my mouth, ask for support, find friends and surround yourself with people who are doing the exact thing you are interested in. Followed by, “and know that it is not stepping on anyone, it’s stepping with them”! It was then I heard my own advice. In life we achieve goals and create ideas and then share them! It’s only a handout if you don’t do anything to get there yourself otherwise it’s asking for support. We get to BE Supported. In return we get to BE Supportive and it’s a cycle that can go in and in and will change the greedy world we live in. And I get it, the world is huge and not everyone will follow this pattern but remember your world is everyone you come in contact with, so why not keep YOU’RE world beautiful and successful and BE Supported/Supportive. Walk beside each other, it’s so much easier than walking alone! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Man! If anyone knows about living for free in his head it’s ME! Quite frankly it has helped in some situations but held me back in others. 

Self doubt is a disease that many of us suffer. And self doubt lives inside your head! So why stay up there getting all diseased? Lol

Have you ever had the feeling that you wanted to do something, decided you can do and we’re ready to do it but then you talked yourself out of it? Then you just ended up where you began and the thing you wanted to do back to an idea. What if you would have just jumped into whatever it is you had passion for in that moment with out the conversation with the doubt in your head? Where would you be now? 

Self doubt comes from fear! Fear of failing, being rejected, made fun of, or not heard all together. What we create in our head projects out of us and into others and then they have that same thought of us. We may have a great idea but no one listens because we get all nerdy inside of our selves and don’t believe in our own ideas after the back and forth with ourselves leading to others not having confidence in our ideas and then it becoming someone else idea who just jumped in and boom you’re back in your head saying, damn if I only would have then I WOULD HAVE! Well you didn’t and now you get to just sit inside your head going nowhere. Keone! 

Let go of doubt and fear. Be Courageous and have faith that your heart will not fail you. Know that you are strong enough to pick back up should things not go the way you thought. Whatever it is! Let go of those questions! Are they cheating, do they like me, did they hear and feel what i said. Was my presentation good enough, did i say the right things, will i die tonight. Yeah all my questions plus more. Causes so much anxiety and then I’m left alone with my thoughts and doubt and stuck in the same place. It’s time to move on and move ahead and know that bad and good will reveal itself and being stuck in your head doesn’t make it any easier to face. Don’t be all in your head about would have, should have, could have, why’s and when’s and how and just trust your NOW! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I used to be so sheltered. Grew up in a Pentecostal church, only child, and scared of the unknown. I didn’t even lose my virginity until the age of 21 (well I did other things but 🤫). I never really fully immersed into my acting/career because of the fear of not knowing if i would have another contract when one ended, investing money into my life while trying to pay to survive life. I admired people who could. Saw many become successful around me because they lived without that fear. 

I also used to live my life worries about what people thought of me. Always feeling judged and like I stood out too much. I had a light that always shunned but if I got too much attention I would dim it down a bit. People loved me and wanted to be around me but i would make it awkward and end up being a loner at most times. 

Always the guy that thought why not me? 

When i let go of the control that was once holding me back. Taking more risks and BEing spontaneous is when I landed a dream role in my acting career that instantly gave me my equity card and shifted me from inspiring actor to actor. When i stopped caring about what people thought of me and started just BEing myself in every situation is when I actually was seen and felt seen not in the bad stand out kind of way but the way that inspired people in return inspiring me. I easily found another dream job, my current job as flight attendant and have been recognized as a brand ambassador on social media (these are projects that as of now I haven’t shared, but soon will! But I feel like I am truly living and all because I’m not afraid to BE Myself and just authentically and loudly BE!

Until I just now had a conversation with a friend/coworker working a flight to Dallas. He was talking about how he was switching bases and how he recently left a long long long time relationship and was going to chase all the things he once put aside. As I began to “coach” him I started hearing the words I was saying and realizing I was him before we decided to take control of his journey. Living a comfortable life and giving up slowly all of the dreams and aspirations I once had.

I have in many ways become comfortable in the life I live. Not taking too many risks. Settling. And in reality NOT Living! In our conversation I used this quote that just came to my heart, “if you are not uncomfortable in life at times, you aren’t really living”. It hit me! I’m not truly living. Sure I’m making it through life and having some experiences along the way but there are so many things I haven’t accomplished or “given up” on. Towards the end of the conversation I said it’s important to just BE Outrageous. My God that’s it! Stop living so calculated and comfortably yet responsible and take risks and BE Outrageous. Don’t BE Afraid or what the change will be and if it will actually work out or not but just jump and make it happen. Stop worrying about what someone thinks and live outrageously! Whatever that means. Take sexy pictures and celebrate your body, speak your mind and stand up for what you believe in. Confidently go for the jobs and projects you’ve always wanted and know you deserve. Move out of country, or within the country. Try new foods, jump out of planes, visit new places, open up sexually and try new shit, GO and DO and LIVE! Outrageous things happen to outrageous people, so go and don’t BE Afraid to BE Outrageous, or remain basic and keep snubbing your nose up at outrageous people. Yeah cause that’s really living. Ha!

BElieve, BE Free, BEYOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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