When building a house you never start with walls! It’s always the foundation that is built first. 

The same should be considered when creating new friendships. It’s hard sometimes to let our walls down or so easy to build them up. Just imagine though, an open house that has high ceilings and hardly any walls. How airy and free it feels! If you build a strong foundation in a friendship and stop worrying about what walls you need to put up it will grow into something beautiful, with endless sky high possibilities and you will BE Solid within that friendship. Trust will come easy if you are honest from the beginning. Love will BE unconditional, and the bond many times unbreakable. You will always feel at home! 

We all want that don’t we? So get it!

If for any reason you begin to feel the relationship is shaky and you can’t trust or build with this a person then sweetheart it’s not the house you need to move into. Move on. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

I know many of us or at jobs and or in situations that we are not happy about. This sometimes makes it difficult to be able to see the blessings we actually have. We are so focused on what blessings should look like or pick and choose which blessings mean more to us. Don’t we? And how rude! Maybe this is why we feel trapped and at a dead end and like nothing is going right for us because we don’t stop and see that everything in life is a blessing whether it’s one we are ready for or not. 

All things especially just waking up in the morning should be counted as a blessing. Even life lessons, good and bad, are blessings!

So in all things BE Blessed and BE Thankful for what you do have, for what you can have, what you will have, great or small. Once you are able to realize and count all things as blessings you will never see them as small. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

So the keynote really says it all.

If you remain consistent with yourself in what you want and need then you will be able to consistently express that to the ones you love and things won’t BE easier but you sure can end up keeping and building a beautiful relationship or saving a wonderful friendship. 

So BE Consistent with your wants and needs and how you express yourself. That’s it. No big reveal or sharp ending. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

Everyone knows if they are living right or not. Yes? Or No? Basically. What works for some may not work for others. What one needs the other may not. Some are okay with mediocracy and content with basic. Some people love to live a wild life and some people just want to be chill. Some like their clothes tight and some loose. Some people want to have lots of sex and with a variety of different people. Some are more conservative. The point is we all get to live the life we want to live and we don’t need permission and so we def do NOT have to apologize for BEing who and what we want to be. So go ahead and live YOUR best life and BE Unapologetic about it! 

If for any reason you doubt that you are living your best life and you feel you’re lacking and could be doing better then the only person you need to apologize to is yourself and start making the change.

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

If you have been reading past keynotes you know that I have often times, in my past, tried to fit in or please people. It comes from lack of self worth. Having the fear of being abandoned or not accepted and especially from loved ones, more specifically love interests. 

Hearing someone say you aren’t good enough or you are lacking in any area of life whether career, finances, love, whatever, is hard to swallow or accept. It should allow for you to access and make a shift in areas or to decide, “I’m good where i am, and if it’s not good enough for you then there’s the door”. 

When it comes to personality, or just who you are in general, there should be NO negotiation of trading in who you are to BE Someone else. 

To me there is a difference but in both situations it is important to BE Stable in who you are and what you bring to relationships! BE Stable in your career. BE Stable financially. BE Stable with your life decisions. BE Stable with who you are. 

Once you learn to BE Stable in all these areas of your life and who you are then you come into other peoples lives and situation able to offer and add to rather than being a burden or the product of “people trying to change you”. 

Again, BEing Stable with yourself does not mean you have it all together. BE Stable even in just where you are in life and know that you are continuing to grow at your pace in the process. If who you are and what you offer isn’t good enough for someone then they have two options. Love you anyways or move on. Never allow someone to change you! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

I come across so many Instagram accounts that say in the profile “I’m a singer/songwriter, actor, entrepreneur, dancer, writer, etc” and then when you google them nothing pops up but their social media. This would include me if you only go back 5 years. So I am talking to myself as well in this keynote. 

If you have the talent then you ARE these things you claim. However it’s time to actually make these things happen!

We don’t need huge venues to start out! It doesn’t have to be broadway. It doesn’t have to be a major record label. The movie doesn’t have to be a blockbuster. You don’t have to be paid (as experience would be a great compensation). You just have to have the talent and start using it. Allow them the universe/God to bless you with all the things that come along with doing the work. 

Many times if you just sit on your talent and wait for things to happen just on talent alone and no work gets you……       (nowhere)

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

Speeches and scripts are used in so many places. Tv ads and commercials, graduations, weddings, funerals, movies, tv shows, etc. where they shouldn’t be used is in everyday conversation or dates. I mean people really want the real you and need a break from all the superficial words that are edited to fit an occasion. Especially on a date! How many time we go over and over in our heads the interview questions we will ask our dater. We become so caught up in the script that we forget to be ourselves and or enjoy the person in front of us! 

In all conversations it is so easy to tell when someone is in script mode. Usually because ones face looks anxious waiting to blurt out the next question or reply with the greatest answer (you’ve been working on all your life), and the other person has only just begun to speak. Chill!!! Relax!!!! Relate!!!! BE YOUrself!!!! 

Just show up and let the connection just flow and BE Unscripted! 

Sometimes there’s not even dialogue in a good connection. Sometimes it’s just silence! Enjoy that too! It’s those memories that will stand above all scripts! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

Growing up I was told by many people i was too much of everything or not enough. Hyper, feminine, not black enough, fat, weird, ….okay I don’t really want to revisit all of it but you get the point. 

I went completely out of my way to please people and to prove I was enough or wasn’t too much. Hard balance to prove. I would even ask people what they thought and then would get so hurt when they told me their opinion. 

It wasn’t until my junior year in high school that I learned that I can only live to please myself. That I couldn’t change who i was as a person, only create in myself a better version of who I was. It was then college that I came to the realization that I was enough and never too much of anything. I learned that it was all about perception and I couldn’t rely on how others perceived. I could only change what was not working while still allowing me to BE ME! Just recently I have come to the conclusion that I love everything about me! “I Am what I Am”, I am the “worlds greatest” me there ever was or will BE, I “shine” and I am exactly “who I say I am”. I’m winning as me! Authentically, honestly and without permission! 

I encourage everyone to BE YOUtiful! BE who you are and love it. Make others love you by being you. If they don’t, so what. You never ever have to ask for permission to BE who you are. Once you stop asking for permission you become exactly who you were even meant to be. And that’s BEYOUtiful! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

Okay, so, I hope you by now don’t think that i think I got all my shit together and know it all and live the perfect life and present the best ways of BEing daily. I struggle! This keynote lesson is one of my biggest struggles! 

I have NO filter! Even in joking can I Sometimes be so careless with my words. I used to think (and sometimes still do) that people were just too sensitive and need to get over the seriousness of not being able to laugh at yourselves and pick at your flaws. Until it’s reversed and I find myself picking my face, heart, and every nerve off the ground. 

There have been times that people have hurt me with their ways and I quickly snap back with some knife wrenching comment that cuts to the soul. Sometimes I say things in defensiveness to shut someone up before they even dare come hard for me. No one is safe. Not a lover, not a family member, or a friend. So you know if I had enemies it would be ww111. 

Well it’s not cool or cute at all! I have seen what it does to people and to myself being on the giving and the receiving side. As I get older I become more aware of people’s feelings and sensitive to them. So I have just started practicing (sometimes I still slip, well, many times already) actually getting my negative feelings of people out by writing them down and you know what it really helps. Now, I don’t leave it on the paper especially when it’s something that must be addressed. I just read the non filtered version on the paper , see how bad it sounds, and then clean it up and talk when Ive cooled off. 

People can’t irritate the crap out of you! They can be hurtful! But it’s just not right to fight negative with negative. Yes, I know there are some people that can’t hear positivity and will push you to throw anything out your mouth and if it’s needed in that moment then, you know, whatever, but with loved ones and those that you want to keep a loving relationship with, it’s important to BE Considerate with their feelings! This will also limit the negativity you spit as it’s not healthy for you even. You are the first person to think or hear the negativity from your own mouth and sometimes the last as people don’t always hear the “shit” you got to say. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent