

Okay, so, I hope you by now don’t think that i think I got all my shit together and know it all and live the perfect life and present the best ways of BEing daily. I struggle! This keynote lesson is one of my biggest struggles!
I have NO filter! Even in joking can I Sometimes be so careless with my words. I used to think (and sometimes still do) that people were just too sensitive and need to get over the seriousness of not being able to laugh at yourselves and pick at your flaws. Until it’s reversed and I find myself picking my face, heart, and every nerve off the ground.
There have been times that people have hurt me with their ways and I quickly snap back with some knife wrenching comment that cuts to the soul. Sometimes I say things in defensiveness to shut someone up before they even dare come hard for me. No one is safe. Not a lover, not a family member, or a friend. So you know if I had enemies it would be ww111.
Well it’s not cool or cute at all! I have seen what it does to people and to myself being on the giving and the receiving side. As I get older I become more aware of people’s feelings and sensitive to them. So I have just started practicing (sometimes I still slip, well, many times already) actually getting my negative feelings of people out by writing them down and you know what it really helps. Now, I don’t leave it on the paper especially when it’s something that must be addressed. I just read the non filtered version on the paper , see how bad it sounds, and then clean it up and talk when Ive cooled off.
People can’t irritate the crap out of you! They can be hurtful! But it’s just not right to fight negative with negative. Yes, I know there are some people that can’t hear positivity and will push you to throw anything out your mouth and if it’s needed in that moment then, you know, whatever, but with loved ones and those that you want to keep a loving relationship with, it’s important to BE Considerate with their feelings! This will also limit the negativity you spit as it’s not healthy for you even. You are the first person to think or hear the negativity from your own mouth and sometimes the last as people don’t always hear the “shit” you got to say.
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!
Keone Dent