Monthly Archives: June 2018

“I can explain everything”. “It’s not what it looks like”. “I didn’t mean”, “I don’t know what came over me”, “huh”?, blank stares, excuses…..SHUT UP! No one wants to here another excuse! 

We don’t really have to explain anything as our actions speak for themselves.

Short and straight to the point, explanations basically are excuses and excuses are null and void in my ears and it’s time we take responsibility for the actions we take and the decisions we make. If you did it, you did it. If whatever you did was not a good choice BE Responsible and apologize and make it right. Stop being late. Stop breaking commitments, stop hurting people with your words and actions. Stop cutting people off, stop talking behind people’s backs, stop being abusive, and just stop making excuses for all of these things we explain away! Just BE responsible for your actions and your ways. And to those that allow these excuses over and over again…..BE Responsible and let that shit go. It’s just not worth it! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Ever since I can remember and I can remember very far back, I have had abandonment issues and fears. From family members separating, friendships ending, moving away (both myself and others), to even losing people to death. I have such a small immediate family and I haven’t really been connected with all of the rest of my family. To add to that I am the only child and it absolutely frightens me that  I will one day BE Alone (and not the alone I once spoke about in a past keynote).

When I was growing up, the only child, I had to learn to get by with lonely times. My imagination and creativity so great that 

Often times I didn’t even notice I was alone. When I would make friends and get close to them I held on so tight as it was Always brand new to me and then I would move or they would move (military family) and boom I was heart broken and felt abandoned. 

Fast forwarding to adulthood, I would find myself making friends and losing the connections for whatever reason. Either I was cutting them off (defense mechanism)  before they could cut me off or they would beat me to it because I am sometimes a difficult person or the good ol moves situation (as the military life is still in me and I cant sit still anywhere). 

I have learned to just BE with myself and know that I am my best company and not putting so much weight on people having to stick around with me. I trust they will and would love for them to but such is life that everything must come to an end and sometimes it’s before you want them to and often times out of your control. I have learned that no matter what everything will BE OK if I continue to love and BE there for and with myself. 

I encourage everyone who has some of these same fears of losing people or not, to BE OK with just BEing. Ask for support but do not expect that support will always BE there and BE OK with getting things done on your own. BE OK with going to the movies and restaurants alone. BE OK to sit in silence with yourself. BE OK with comforting yourself during hard times while allowing others to also offer love and support. BE OK just knowing everything will BE OK and you will always BE OK in anything that you face. If you always got YOU, YOU will never BE Alone and abandonment will never BE a worry! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Can i help you? Got a problem? Damn is there something on my face? These are usually the sarcastic questions we ask people who are staring all up in our souls. But why? 

Who cares if people stare? I mean why else did you put a full face of makeup on? Why did you spend big bucks on your outfit and take an hour to get all dressed up? To be noticed right? To look and feel good. To BE Admired! 

There are so many different levels of love. Love for family. Love for friends. I love your hair, I love your shoes. Your personality is fire, I just love you! A form of love is also Admiration. Many times when people stare they are admiring you. It’s a compliment. So let go of your complex and let them stare! BE Admired. I mean I’m sure you have stared at yourself in the mirror at least 5 times throughout the day. Why not let someone else take in all the beauty as well. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Ever had those moments when something good happens to you and you just know it was meant to be? You know that dream job you landed, that best friend you shared an aha moment with, that vacation where you met that fine ass brother/sister/ or other (lol) and couldn’t get enough of. I mean it just seemed like the stars were aligned and that it was destined for you to have this experience, success, outcome. 

Well, I believe that all things are destined and written and we are the ones that determined what the outcome will be. I HEAR you!!! How so Keone? How if I am turned down from a job I want is it me that determines the outcome. Glad you asked Susan. Lol. You didn’t control the outcome of the decision made at that moment but you still get to choose if you will give up or continue in the quest of finding and getting what you want. If it is meant to be, with hard work and determination it will be. Sometimes you don’t even have to work that hard. Sometimes it just lands in your lap. 

The most important thing is to realize life is. Your life is what it is due to what you have been through and how you have come through it. Your life are made up of the decisions/choices you’ve made. Your upbringing, whether good or bad, allowed you to grow from or into and live accordingly to make change for the better or to settle in the blessing. 

Once you understand that your life just is, you learn that you get to create more for your life. Allow me to further explain.

If you know that you are allergic to peanuts after eating a whole can and swelling up and almost dying, then you know you just can’t eat peanuts! You now get to find a new snack to enjoy! If you know the struggle of gaining weight because you are not active and getting the exercise you need then you learn the only way to release that weight is to actively do something about it. Your struggles and your setbacks are your signs that you are on the right path. Life cannot just be handed to us and we cannot just live easy simple struggle Free lives because then the purpose of life is useless. To teach others, to uplift and encourage. To be of service to others. 

Most importantly if we cannot accept who and where we are at the moment, we will never learn to really appreciate the blessings that do make their ways into our lives.

Never compare your life with others. I mean one may have a sexy mate. But does he/she treat that person right? Someone may have their dream job…..one day and snatched away the next week. The late Kate Spade had an empire she built from the ground up and still suffered depression. 

BE Content in your lives. Appreciate the little things that you can be happy about. Hold on to those beautiful lessons learned while reaching new heights and successes. Always remember, who you are is every struggle, burden, heartbreak, rejection, setback, and also, proud moments, successes, love affair, etc that has come in and out of your life. Love who you are! BE who you are, struggles and all. Just don’t stay there because who you are is waiting for you to be great, even again tomorrow. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I know its a harsh word. Vigilant. How can you say trust everything be Keone and blah blah and then turn around and say BE Vigilant. Because hello this is the world and although there is still a whole lot of good in it, the truth is there is bad as well.

There are people out there who have created their whole life built on lies that even they believe they are living all truth. They have jacked up their timelines from beginning to end and lost track of their real lives. I have experienced that many of these people are the ones who freely tell all of their business and life stories. They are usually the victims and the huge successes. I am not saying don’t believe people’s life stories because truth is the story could be all true. It could. But just because we know ones life stories doesn’t mean we know who they are, how they will be in certain situations, or again if their stories are even their own. This is where actions speak louder than words come in. 

A person will actually live their story and not have to prove anything. The only way we can truly learn someone is to BE Vigilant! Watchful, attentive. Doesn’t mean you don’t trust this person. It simply means you do trust them, and trust them enough to get close enough to watch them live. Lol. Yup, I’d rather watch you closely in dangers way rather than be comfortable in your words alone later to be snatched up by the bullshit in the end. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I used to pretend to be so many different things and still never fit in and didn’t really know who I truly was as I was always what others wanted me to be or thought of me to be. Once I learned to love, accept and BE ME was when I found…… I still don’t fit in but others find ways to fit in with me. It’s the best feelin in the world to know who you are and to just BE. I encourage everyone to just BE YOU. I mean quite frankly YOU really can’t BE anyone else and why the hell would you want to? 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I have a friend/co worker, that i used to buddy bid with, who would always say “it’s not the end of the world”. She said it to everything. If I was hesitant about doing something “it’s not the end of the world Keone”. If i was being over the top “Keone!!! It’s not the end of the world”. If I was mad at her and we were in a battle, “whatever Keone, it’s NOT the end of the world”. You know she is right! It’s not the end of the world so why not keep on going. Especially because tomorrow, even today, could be the end of your life. 

Today I encourage everyone to BEgin. BEgin living your best life! BEgin writing, reading, learning, teaching. BEgin living outrageous, going on adventures, conquering your fears. BEgin living freely and unconditionally. BEgin forgiving yourself and others. BEgin connecting and conversing with other people in the world. BEgin that task, project, business plan. BEgin and BEgin all over again. As the world and your life has not yet ended, today is a perfect day for you to BEgin!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I’ve said it before, that in order for anyone to hate on you they must first recognize you and if you are okay with what they are hating on because you do whatever it is so well, then appreciate their acknowledgement. It’s a compliment! And with any compliment should follow a gracious THANK YOU! 

What else needs to be said? BE Appreciative and let them hate. 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Remember that job that didn’t accept you? The one that requires you to wear that uniform and or costume? What about the guy who did you dirty and left you dry. But wait he was so cool and knew how to lay it down in bed. That old job, old place and remember that time you ate that meal and then went to the bathroom and had a bowel movement? Right? The latter part is in the past and you wouldn’t revisit that exact meal. You would move forward and if you liked that meal that much you would one day order it again but it isn’t the same meal. I mean it is but it isn’t. Hello?

So why look back in life? Don’t get me wrong it’s important to remember where you come from and celebrate your milestones etc, but why turn and actually “look” going back to those things that never served you or did serve you Into the next chapter of life. Why not actually just continue to look forward and trade up all of those past things? 

Just like you wouldn’t dig into the toilet for that once a great meal that you ate, don’t dig into the past. Great new things are right around the corner! 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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