Everyone falls in love sometimes but not always for the right reasons and many times it’s not that one falls in love but they settle in “love”. I know I have several times. It wasn’t until I really took time to accept and love who I was that I was able to find real love and fall!
We won’t be with a perfect person ever, in my opinion. They will be too short, too tall, gain weight, lose too much weight, not have life figured out or know “it all”, whatever other complaints we may have of the opposite. One will never have it all. However, one CAN have everything we want and need should we learn to accept one for who they are and what they do offer. This can only truly be done when you can look at yourself and accept and love YOU, flaws and all and realize you don’t have everything one may be looking for but can authentically offer all of who you are.
Once we learn and love ourselves we then become aware of what we want and need from others while accepting they may not show up with “everything” but have all that is required to love and BE Loved.
You know I’ve said it in many past keynotes, what you put out is what you get back. You want joy? BE Joy! You want sexy? BE just that. You want LOve? You really have to BE Love! If you are petty, expect petty. Got it?
Bottom line is you can’t be IN LOVE if when it comes to YOU, you are out of it. Okay that made more sense when I was thinking of what to say and then I typed it and now I’m staring at it sideways attempting to correct it. I won’t! Here it is. If you can’t BE In Love with yourself, you will truly not know what it means to Be Loved by someone else. You will also not BE able to really love someone else with that compassionate, unconditional love. You will only be able to say, you are next to love. Sit with that!
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!
A mother, father, doctor, lawyer, rockstar, actor, cashier, cab driver, flight attendant, pilot, whatever career or life you’ve chosen currently is your life. The things you choose to do in life whether it’s going to the movies, on a cruise, a safari, a vacation, or just sit at home and do nothing, is your choice and makes up apart of the life you live. Are you enjoying it? Are you making the best out of your life?
I’ve always wanted to be this big deal actor. Also a singer, oh and a model, a talk show host, a father, and a flight attendant. Yeah couldn’t really make up my mind as i wanted to do it all and had the talent to also back it up but not all of these things have happened for me yet. So many times I find myself living through others experiences and life events. Enjoying the benefits they reap. Then I realized, wait I’m not enjoying their life, I’m living my own life which happens to be shared with their life. Because regardless if I’m going to an event or a venue because it’s a part of someone else’s life, I surely am Alive and that means it too is apart of my life and I get to enjoy it.
The real lesson: I have not always been happy with how all of my life has turned out. All of my dreams and aspirations are still being created and prayed on to be reached. Some things have come to past and some that I’m not into anymore. Bottom (and top) line is for whatever moment I am in and where ever I am in life I must BE Grateful. WE must BE Grateful for what we have and where we are in life. If things are missing or not how you wanted them to be then go back to the drawing board and make some goals and get out there and make them happen. Remain Grateful as you wait for the other things to come through. If we can’t Be Grateful in our life many times other opportunities are missed because we don’t even know (or care for) what we do have.
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUTiful…BE!
“Life is sooooo hard, but don’t we make it that way”? This is a line in my poem “content”. The answer is yes! Yes we do make it hard. There are situations in life that can appear hard but life itself is easy.
With all of the resources in life, family, friends, humanitarian programs, strangers, and most importantly ourselves being there for us and ready to help when support is asked for. How often though are we not asking for the support or allowing for people to be there for us and trying to do everything all by ourselves and then complaining day in and out how it’s so hard to get through this and how alone we are and having no one there for us. Now, I get it, maybe no one currently is around for you but that would be something you must access and ask yourself who am I letting in my circle and who am I keeping out. No need to explain that, sit with it. Oh you get it now! Right!
Life is not hard, only the situations that may arise and then we add our own obstacles to the mix, making this appear even harder. Sometimes we even like for things to appear harder, not for ourselves but for others to feel sorry for us and when we pull through we look like super hero’s. Oh, oh just me? Only I’m over dramatic about shit? Oh ok. Cool.
Listen take some time to breathe. Relax, don’t stress so much. Things are going to be hard, life will get messy, emotions will run high, and yes at times we may feel like we are in all of this alone. The truth is things will turn out. We just need to be open to support, we need to be strong and creative and every so shifting in life (all of these are future keynotes). Life can be so easy if you are willing to just BE Easy! Take it easy!!!!! Better yet life is hard but we make it (through) that way!
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!