So when I wrote this keynote some didn’t understand it. I received messages that said how if you please yourself will others follow (in pleasing you). Well that’s not what I meant.
It is no anyone’s duty to please anyone! I mean unless you are a jester in the queens court or something like that. Why do we spend so much time in pleasing others while putting ourselves on the back shelf? It is completely necessary to Be Kind to others, to help out or be there for someone else, etc, but there is a difference between being there for someone and pleasing them. Look we are not always going to be someone’s favorite flavor! That means they may not be ours. Totally ok!
Now what I meant by it was learn to please yourself In all ways. Mentally! Meditate in ways you enjoy and release stress and negativities. Physically! Take yourself to spas, go shopping and spend on yourself or whatever else makes you happy. Sexually! Learn yourself and how you like to BE Touched and what you love and share it with your partner. Others will follow!!!! They too will learn to please themselves and then won’t have to rely on you trying to please them and you can all BE Pleased together!
BElieve, BE Free, BE TOUtiful… BE!
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OMG! There is this woman I know who…… who cares! This is my reaction these days to gossip! Like seriously I have my own issues and goals I’m trying to reach that I just don’t have time or energy to hear someone else’s that has nothing to do with me or you.
Sometimes we tell stories about others thinking that we are informing others or advising others how to go about life differently or to say you’re not alone in a certain situation, but regardless of giving a name or not or full details, you are indeed spreading gossip that one may not want all over the world. They entrusted you with the information. I also believe karma comes in different forms and she doesn’t only come after the intentional, I believe she loves accidents and carelessness too!
Gossip can be very hurtful. Don’t think for a second that it isn’t and BE Aware that it can come back to the person and by then there is so much added to it (like proven in the game telephone).
I have examples of gossip being told to me and then realizing the gossip was about me. I have also been the one “informing” others of what can happen if, and using someone’s personal story, and being told before the next word exited my mouth that I was speaking directly to the person the gossip was about and they corrected me several times trough the story as I didn’t have it all pieced together correctly. How embarrassing!
Seriously ask yourself these questions.
1. Is the information being given to me about someone else really going to help me in my own life. Do I benefit or gain anything from it?
2. By repeating this gossip to someone else, does it benefit that person or help them get ahead in life?
3. Would you want your business being discussed with those you didn’t invite into the discussion?
4. Are you helping or making it better for the person the gossip is about?
If you answered no to any of these questions then BE Quiet!
Listen it’s a privilege when someone shares there secrets or confides in you. Let them decide if they want to tell others or inspire them with their story. It’s their story and they can tell it best! If you really want to encourage someone or uplift or warn others, tell your story! We all have stories! 😁. If someone shares some gossip with you end it before the story is complete. Remember you don’t need to be around or hear any negativity especially about someone else. It’s okay to tell the gossiper to BE Quiet, that you’re not interested in hearing about this.
We must know when to voice our opinions and when to BE Quiet! We must understand that everything we hear is not always true and has no weight if it’s not coming from the person being discussed and choose to BE Quiet.
Remember, someone who runs their mouth about a stranger to you, will run their month about you to someone who is a stranger to you, so also BE Quiet when it comes to spreading your own gossip. 😉
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!