Monthly Archives: September 2017

Sometimes when I close my eyes I can see myself as a child again. Vividly, I can remember certain days and specific times. Like a nightmare during the day and able to open my eyes and come out of it, I don’t. I feel the abuse, I hear the put downs, I feel the loneliness of not fitting in. If I keep my eyes closed long enough I can make it through to a teenager. I can see my past mistakes of not doing well in school, the feeling that people have given up on me, loneliness again of not fitting in, I see my parents splitting, I see my mother abused and it takes me back again as a child remembering we both were abused and thinking it was my fault. With eyes still closed I can see opportunities missed as a young adult. Set backs, confusion and frustration. All of these things play in my head! They used to play in any situation. Mostly negative situations of failures or disappointments.
Now when they play back in my head it’s because I believe that it is important to remember what you came from and to remind yourself you have control now and can move forward on a different path and journey. That you are not bound by the past but yet able to BE Free for the future.
Many times we take what we were or what we went through and we bring it to our current situations. We remember our bad relationships and think in our current situation that we just have bad luck or the wrong people are attracted to us. When in reality we are the ones attracted to the wrongs ones because we hold ourselves in the capacity of what we are used to with bad relationships. This example is the same for career and friendship and life in general.
Remember your past for what it used to be and know that today is not the same and if it is, you are the only one who is able to change it. BE Free and look to the future. Even if you can only see as far as later today! Live and BE Free in today….. and know that even yesterday is the past!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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There have been so many times I have wanted to complete something or do something that just looked so far out of reach or within reach but on the other side of a Clift and would take too much thinking and way too much trying to get to the goal.
Our minds talk us into things so often. Most times we think of all the negatives in everything. If you don’t, then good for you, this isn’t for you. If you are anything like me then keep reading. I did have such a negative side. Seeing the reasons something can’t be done, analyzing the difficulties that would come along with completing a project. Negativities of aging, negative thoughts of another person instead of seeing their potential. I would even concentrate on the negative things people would say to me and believe them to be true.
Listen, I’ve said it before and will probably say it 100 more times! There is power in our words! If we speak and start focusing on the positive things we will have more reason to believe the task at hand can be done, that we are not what those negative people have claimed us to be. We must not only speak positivity to ourselves but to one another, for believing in others potentials are believing in your own and Vis versa. We must BE Encouraging to others and BE Encouraged ourselves, because this race, this race right here, the HUMAN race is not one to be won alone but is something that takes team and we all get to win!!!!!!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I’ve been a flight attendant now for 4 years now. Been on so many international and domestic trips, stayed in so many hotels, looked out the windows of the hotels and saw a world waiting to be explored and by the time I got dressed and headed out the door, my mind was set on food and drinks and maybe a few sites and then back in for the night. So many excuses. Not having the money, scared of the streets and being in a foreign country or area, no one else in the crew wanted to tag along, whatever other lame cop out (insert here and then insert it in my ass). That’s exactly where the excuses belong.
Now your turn, how many times have you looked out the window? Not your own window but the windows of other people’s Facebook and Instagram accounts and thought wow they had a great time, lucky them, I wish I could do things like that, etc. guess what? You can!!!!! We all can!!!!!
Okay, I mentioned money! Or the lack of. But how many tubes of lipstick have you bought this year, or clothes/shoes? How many times did you go to the club paid an entrance fee and then had to buy drinks for yourself and some of you had to buy for your broke ass friends too. Or how many times did you eat out this week alone? How many bags of weed did you purchase just yesterday and it’s almost gone already? Okay that last part used to be me (not anymore). Listen this is money spent unnecessarily and can be put away little by little to take a huge journey, or a small trip, whatever. Instead we are stuck in doing the same shit over and over and once in a while we go to an amusement park and call it a vacation. Smh!!!!! Get out and do something different! BE adventurous for once! I PROMISE it will change your life! It will become such a passion and habit for you to do big things in every area of your life!
Just recently I started doing more interesting, educational, and extreme activities on my layovers. Visiting historic sites (never was interested), eating at new and exciting restaurants, zip lining, bungee jumping, and I can’t wait to do more! I’m like a junkie now and anything basic is just too dull for me and I’d rather sleep and save the money for when the next adventurous thing arises!
I have nothing else to say really (as if I haven’t rambled at this point). STOP making excuses! STOP BEing LAME and get yo ass up out the window and BE Adventurous!!!!!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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This keynote goes quite along with the last one BE Harmonious . It will also be very short.
Once you have become acquainted with yourself and know who you are, BE Sure of who you are and remain consistent. Know that you are the best YOU that no one else will ever be able to BE!
You see, you may know others by what they tell you and sometimes even show, but we are not inside their hearts and minds and will never fully know another person as we know ourselves. So wouldn’t it only make sense to say that YOU are the Best person you will ever know? If you can’t say that then you are Insinuating that you are a bad person, make a change if that’s the case!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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Through my life, I have met a lot of people. I had made connections and became friends with many of them. Some remain but most either faded away or I dismissed them.
I had low tolerance when it came to people and letting them in or letting them stay in for too long. I was fragile, easily hurt. Quick to become irritated when someone didn’t keep their word, embarrassed by some of their characteristics and ashamed of our differences (be accepted explains more). I just couldn’t handle so many friends, yet felt so lonely. Many times even questioned what is wrong with me, why don’t people want to be my friend. Until I realized, I am a people too and do these same things that I so quickly judge others for.
Spending much time alone and having time to relate to myself, I really got to know myself super deep. I kept a few journals over the years and wrote all of my feelings good and bad and what caused those feelings, the situations that created my reactions. I read these journals often, remembering the moments and reflecting on how I felt and why I felt that way. I laughed many times at how petty I was with some things, and rolled my eyes at other journal entries at how I was playing victim and ignorant.
I also was very aware at how many times I flaked on people and made up corny ass excuses as to why I couldn’t make an outing with them, or how I was just treating people in general when I let them in and discovered It was mostly just a defense mechanism that I used in order to not get hurt or disappointed.
Boy did I miss out on a lot of great friendships and relationships!
After really getting to know myself, I have learned to really accept who I am and how to BE Harmonious within myself. I basically became my best friend! Loving myself totally for my flaws, and my best assets. Hanging out with myself and having a blast! Taking myself to dinners. Laughing with and at myself. Really learning to be alone with myself and realizing it’s okay to BE Alone (another keynote, go read it next if you haven’t) but separate the term from being lonely.
It’s a great feeling to BE Harmonious within yourself. It has created so many opportunities that I had missed in the past. It has made me open to let people in. The friends I have are so genuine and loving because I know how to choose them. I can accept their differences and converse about how things about them makes me feel, good and bad. Accept how they feel about me good and bad. The acquaintances I have are decent. Lmao, they’re decent yes and that’s why they are acquaintances. I know peoples places in my life and if they are good for me or not and if they belong or don’t. I have the total power and I am protected from being hurt or broken. Feeling pain sure because I am human but able to forgive and let go and keep shit moving! All because I learned to BE Harmonious.
I encourage everyone to really get to know and BE Harmonious with themselves. You will open up a whole new world for yourself! A world filled with love and understanding! Free yourself from solitude and loneliness! You will create Harmonious relationships. You will even find that best friend you have always wanted. That best friend may even BE Yourself!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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I used to be the guy who would stretch my truth in order to feel and appear to be better than I really thought I was. Before I became an equity actor and performed on professional stages, I led people to believe I was always living in my dream, when in reality I was working community theatre and non union shows, trying to make my dreams come true. When I finally made it, not only was I not able to truly celebrate, but It became hard to keep up with the lies and I even almost forgot what was true and not causing me to also lose timeline in my life. Awful way to live.
Not only in my career was I telling these lies and missing out on the truth but also in my relationships with friends and lovers. Falling in “love” with controllers and cheaters, dedicating my time to people who weren’t really for me. Telling myself that I needed this person and life is not complete without that person. Lies that I fed myself that kept me away from the truth because it had become a habit and I was accepting less that what I deserved and it only felt right because it became my truth! Terrible way to live! Actually not living at all!
In all things we must BE Truthful!
Not just for the obvious reasons of living a clean honest life but for many other benefits. If you haven’t experienced something in life like owning a luxury car or going on an amazing trip wouldn’t you want to instead of just saying you have and by the time you really do you don’t appreciate it because well you have already had it all along? Would you want to celebrate a victory and have others celebrate with you when you are accepted into that college or get the part in that broadway show, or get that promotion at work above all other qualified candidates in stead of having to continue with the lie of already being successful and waiting for it to happen, if by then it even happens because remember you’ve already had it so no need for the universe/God to bless you with it, right?
You understand I’m sure, BE Truthful in life with yourself and everyone else! It’s the only way to LiVE and I mean TRULY LIVE!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

 

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