First impressions are everything right? Especially if we are in the field of dating. We want to make sure we are witty, fun, outgoing, sassy, sexy, intelligent, exciting enough to hold the attention of another person. We hide our baggage deep in closets full of bones. Cover up our “crazy” in sandboxes filled with insecurities left behind from our past. We do all we can to only allow what we made up in our minds to be the perfect image hoping our flaws aren’t anywhere to be found.
Until one day we have hidden too long that our true inner self can no longer hide in the closet, suffocating and choking on the sand and boom releases 3 times worse than we even imagined. Whoa! What made me say that, do that, this isn’t me.
Actually, yes it is my friend. You are exactly who you are in your low times and you are truly who you are in your high times, we need to find a way to keep it balanced and remain in our “now” Times.
Okay I digress because I’m going into some other keynote lessons.
Isn’t it hard to maintain a lie? I mean you have to remember all the details, and remember how you told it, who you told it to. One lie must be supported by another and then before you know it you have about 2 years of lies saved up and you pray it never comes up again as you have forgotten how the timelines goes. Ummm yes I am speaking from experience. Smh. Lesson learned and I try my hardest not to even tell a white lie because they too turn black quickly! Sometimes even RED! ?
Same goes for just being who you are! Especially when meeting new people. I mean your true self will eventually come out regardless of how hard you try to suppress it.
Listen up, if you cover up who you are (specifically speaking of flaws) you will surely attract who you want, but will you keep them? Is it worth just having that fine man/woman for just a little while and then finding out they aren’t the one for you or vise versa all because you attracted the wrong one with your cover up or they found they could handle you for ALL that you are including your flaws!?
Sometimes we are simply not ready for relationship because we haven’t found out exactly who we are and therefore are not sure what the hell we even want. We just know we don’t want to be alone. How unfair you selfish asshole (speaking to some of my exes and myself mostly lol). So because you are lost it’s okay to lure in another person and get lost together? WRONG, (as my grandfather would say obnoxiously, when he just had to be right). It’s not ok! You are wasting their time, wasting your own time and only setting yourself and them up for heartbreak and possibly becoming even more damaged or worst yet damaging someone else.
BE Unmasked! Know who you are and accept who you are, for who you are! Communicate with others! They already know there is no such thing as a perfect person (you do know this right?). If you are broken or damaged, you are not ready! Don’t bring that baggage, aka drama, into your next relationship! Repair yourself, love yourself, find yourself, then allow others to discover you and begin that search. As a mascaraed ball is exciting, no one wants to uncover a mask to find a face full of maggots!
BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!