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With all of life crashing about you, stress from your job, relationships, family, etc, it’s so easy to become so engulfed within your issues and drown, with complaints being your only lifeline to stay above the deep waters of chaos.

It’s just so hard to sometimes even care to face the day. Sometimes it’s so hard to get out of bed to face that deadened job. Difficult to confront that family member or love one. Must be such a pain to have to handle responsibilities in life.

Know what? Shame on us to even begin to speak about how many issues we have in life. Did you wake up today? Did you die? Not if you’re reading this blog, unless you’re some kind of ghost (please don’t visit me if you are).

Many people did not wake up this morning or are on their way to the end of their lives.

One of my shortest blog posts ever, it’s to the point! BE Alive and face your issues head on! Deal with the loved one and fix the problem, make things better at work or find another job, whatever the issues are, deal with them and fix them! You have purpose in life and by allowing them to just exist and exhaust you, you are falling short of being able to live fully and completely! You never know when your last breath will be, so stop complaining and just BE Alive!

 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUTiful…BE!

 

Keone Dent

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If you’re one of the “good guys/girl” it’s so easy to get caught up in the giving state and forgetting to take. Always picking up the tab, inviting people out for a good time, the one always making the phone call to reach out. Then before you know it, complaining how no one is there for you, feeling lonely, and used! Then what usually happens is we pre judge the rest of the world and don’t open our hearts to welcome anyone back in.

I believe in most cases (speaking more for myself, πŸ€”) what happens is we all want and need connection, therefore we go all out of our way to please others and treat them and keep the connection by checking up on people. Most of these people are so much fun to be around, hold great conversations, know how to really let go and have fun. Yet, the only time you get with them is when you have invited them out or initiated the text or phone call. They got used to it. Before you know it, you have become deeply connected to them, basically addicted to them but realize they never return the same attention, or initiate connecting with you.

On the flip side, there are those people who always reach out to you, call you on the phone, text to check up on you, invites you everywhere, wants to love on you every moment they get and we call them thirsty, we ignore their calls, text only when we feel like it or blow them off completely. Orrrrr we take advantage of them. They are always going to be there. Hello, they love you and have so much fun with you, right?

Same thing happens in relationships. One makes more money, so it’s only fair they pay for everything right? Another is super great at planning outings, so no need for the counterpart to ever plan a date. She/he always cleans the house, cooks, does this, so no need for the other to do that. They are great with their mouth and love to please my body so I don’t need to get on my knees ever πŸ™Š wait a minute! I’m only speaking the truth!

These are all one sided relationships and they are not healthy! You trained a bad habit and allowed for your kind, loving, welcoming heart to be turned into a doormat. Again, causing you to wake up and then never wanting to do anything for anyone else.

Well, people deserve to be blessed by your kindness and in this big world there are many people who will return the kindness. We have to find them. We have to recognize who they are and be surrounded by them.

In a world where many are taking more than giving its important to balance it out. It’s become habit forming for many of us to subconsciously take advantage of good deeds. Lets break those habits! Lets start appreciating others for what they do for us and the love they show us and give back. Text, call and invite them out. Pick up the tab, buy them gifts, love on them and give give give. Just make sure to BE Appreciated and get get get. Don’t let anyone take advantage of your big giving heart and don’t be the asshole that takes advantage of theirs.

 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

 

Keone Dent

 

Side note: there are no personal story or example of me in this blog because I have been all of the above examples. I’m learning the importance of giving and taking and not taking advantage or being taken advantage of. 😁

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Whether we like to admit it or not, we all compare ourselves to other people. From their looks, bodies, personality, wardrobe, lifestyle, whatever it is.

I used to have, well, I sometimes still do have this problem. Especially when I’m on social media looking at all these bad asses with their shirts off posed all sexy mouths puckered up, eyes squinted and they have 20 likes or double taps. Lmao! Exactly! I thought what you just thought. Then I see another account to where someone who is less than flattering, posed naturally and smiling super big and they have likes and comments and hearts, and emojis. Etc. Then I’m like, huh? Really, how? What is it? Googling their name to see if maybe they are a celebrity I don’t know about. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. It’s all in our heads!

It is a disease we all suffer from. In which some have a worst case of it making them haters or worst, insecure!

Don’t be a hater and don’t be insecure! The truth is there will always be someone better looking, smarter, with a bigger personality, more fashionable style than you, in YOUR mind!

Get out of your mind and stop caring about who may be ” better looking” or “more knowledgeable” than you. YOU are the only youΒ there is and that’s pretty hot in itself!

You ever see someone you think you look better than and they have the girl/guy and your still single. Ever went for a job and met those going for the same position in the lobby while waiting for the interview thinking, I got this, they aren’t so bright, yet they come out with the job and you come out with 10 resumes ready to send them back out. More examples are coming in your head I’m sure. GREAT! That saves me from rambling.

You see it’s not about who is Better looking, or smarter, or has that or this, that you feel you lack. It’s about being the best you can be! BE sexy your way! BE smart about life’s decisions, BE fun and outgoing YOUR way! Wear your clothes how you want to! Walk YOUR walk! Talk YOUR talk! BE Yourself! Because there is no one else that can be that better than you! I guarantee if you do this many things will work in YOUR favor, and there will be many who wish they could do it or look like YOU!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful… BE!

Keone Dent

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We all need sometime alone at times, yes very true, but it is very important to push yourself and have some times with friends and family. So many reasons!

This post isn’t intended to be long winded (and you know how I rant on, especially if you know me in person! Smh. So I’ll try to get right to the point. Yeah right lmaooooo 😐 no really, I’ll try!

I went trough a period of time in Florida where I was hanging out with the wrong people as I exploited in a recent blog post, BE Clear. Along the way I tried many different things in life that wasn’t great for me and as I let most of them go I held on to weed. Not just occasionally but was a chronic (pun intended) smoker daily! Sometimes all day! I had a great day job, was successful with dance and acting troupes, had family all around, including my granny (past blog spot of our story that goes with this one in BE Present), so I had many people around yet I felt lonely.

Don’t we all get lonely sometimes? And many times we are surrounded by people. People who love us! People who are good to us. People who have great intentions for us. Well here’s what was happening with me.

I enjoyed smoking weed, going out to clubs, sitting in other weed smoker homes getting high, sitting in the park, getting high. All of my co workers that wanted to spend time with me, all of my GOOD friends, family, who would reach out to me weren’t smokers, hello! I didn’t have much in common with them! I had a problem and wanted to be around others who had the same problems, basically. So slowly, I stopped getting invited out and when I was over the “party” stage in life (which didn’t last too long) those people were gone as well. Super lonely! No one around because I was never around! I learned that if you decline often or don’t reach out to people, they won’t be looking for you eventually.

I am no longer in my party introvert faze, but I still sometimes hold the same introverted habit. I get into moods to where I’m invited out and I feel it’s too far to go, don’t feel like being around a lot of people, not feeling the venue, don’t wanna just sit in other peoples houses when I can sit in my own, don’t want company because then I have to host and I’m tired and I just don’t feel like it leave me alone! 😳! Then I turn around and no one is available when I do want to hang out. Life cannot be one sided! You must give to be able to have. If you want time with people you have to give some time!

Here’s the worst example! We are all going to die! What if it is your friends, sister, brother, mother, father, pops, grams, nana, titi, uncle, auntie, whoever, what if it’s their last moment on earth? You won’t have them tomorrow and just declined being with them today! Can you live in peace and harmony with the excuse you made to not hang out? Because they talk too much, always trying to give me advice, they’re lame, we never have fun, it’s the same ol conversation over and over, whatever your not wanting to chill reason is, you now will not have an option to accept or decline some time with them again!

BE Available! If you truly have nothing to do and can make an event with someone who has taken the time to invite you, go. If your family just wants a little bit of your time, even if it’s just to sit and stare at each other, go! Birthday parties, go! Weddings, house parties, dinners, movies, clubs, the park, whatever it is BE Available sometimes and go and enjoy these loving people you have in your life! BE Available sometimes for these events, you never know your next invite could be their funeral!

BElieve, BE Free, BE Youtiful… BE!

 

Keone Dent

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