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I was a little nervous when I first started my Keynotes in blog form. I knew the way I wanted to share them would exploit me and my past. Mostly, I was worried about those who were closest to me and how they would judge me because I still struggle with following the lessons, practicing what I preach, if you will. That’s just it though. I don’t preach! I do not want any one of my readers to read these as a sermon of telling you what is right or wrong. I am not here to tell you how to live your life. I do not think that ALL of these keynotes will touch or apply to everyone. As a matter of fact, I encourage anyone to interpret my keynotes and take from it what they need. Even a challenge or debate is welcomed (NOT AN ARGUMENT however).

My keynotes started YEARS ago and were intended to inspire myself. Tucked so tightly in between dark pages of my book of poetry. NEVER shared with anyone! I mean who am I? A man, well then a boy, who came up with quotes, from lessons I’ve learned in my own life. WHO CARES! Lol.

When I became a flight attendant in 2013, many of my co-workers had a special “thing” they did on layovers. A stuff animal they always carried with them, made appearances in photos on their hotel beds. An action figure by all the hotel pools. Pictures of food they tried in different states. “Things” like that. Well I wanted to be different. SURPRISE! I always do my best to be different, as if I’m not different enough. Lol. I decided, why not leave some of your keynotes on the hotel stationary! So I did. Then I would take a selfie that sort of went with the keynote and posted them on social media. Problem came when I only had 30 keynotes. Now what? Well, life started happening and quotes started coming to me and keynotes were eventually backed up and waiting to be written and shared.

There’s the back story of keynotes but I want to concentrate on this keynote without going off subject or making this post longer than it has to be.

I NEED everyone to know that I am not a person who thinks his life is something to be praised. I do not live a life that is perfect and without mistakes. I am not always “Being” all of these blog posts. NOT at ALL and I doubt I will ever get it 100% right. I GAURANTEE YOU WON’T EITHER. AND IT’S OKAY if you don’t.

These keynotes come from a place deep down inside and from my 35 years of living. During situations in life, words pop into my head, thoughts if you would. I write them down. I interpret them. I apply them to my life, I share them. I sometimes fall short of the words. Another situation happens and I reference an old keynote and apply it again. That’s how life works folks. I LISTEN to my inner self. In my case I believe in God and I believe this is who speaks to me. I don’t just stop there. I LISTEN to others and their stories and lessons. I read testimonies, inspirations, my mother, my family, my friends, strangers, WHOEVER. Everyone and everything in life is full of lessons to be taught. Guidance!

As the writer of these keynotes, I am the first one to learn the lesson. I only share them in hopes that YOU can take a few lessons from it or pass it on to someone else that might be able to learn from them. I mean I must, being that the lesson is not only mine. The lesson comes from something/someone greater than I. If I didn’t share, it would defeat my purpose in life and the lessons wouldn’t be known to learn.

I encourage you to BE Listening to your inner self. BE Listening to your elders, friends, family, doctors, strangers, etc. It’s how we get through life. Learning. Applying. Living, TEACHING (as you teach you learn). That’s the point I make in this keynote. As I share my words, my story, I am not only hoping it reaches and helps you in life. I am actually revisiting my own life lesson and praying I continue to grow and move forward with it. So in the future as you are reading my keynotes, whether you know me personally or not, please don’t think that I have in my mind that I have it all together. I am not forcing my beliefs or feelings on you. I am simply, in a way talking out loud reminding myself and trying to live a good, clean, purposeful life along with sharing with you. Please take wheat you will from it. Share what you will of it. I am really appreciative that many of you BE Listening to me (some bad grammar for you to remind you I am also not an English major)!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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Sounds like a PAST keynote eh? Well I’m not basic so you know better. This one has a different meaning. I took so long to post it because it was strange how the day before I was going to post this, the tragedy in Orlando took place.  I was instantly placed in a place of wondering if this would be insensitive. After thinking about it, it’s well needed. Hundreds of people decided to live their lives the way they care to live it. They all had a choice to live life and have a good time. 49 of those people were NOT given the choice to die or live, simply, they were murdered, I think we agree they weren’t given a choice. If you ask me, THEY LIVED! Without fear. That won’t be the case for many people today. Today, because of the acts that took place about a week ago, many of us will live in fear. Scared to stand up for our religions, afraid to love who we want, frightened to be friends with different beliefs, silenced from standing up for our communities, to stand out and make changes. Embarrassed, feeling not accepted, abandoned, starting all over from square one. Many of us now HATE a complete race, a religion, other humans we were meant to love. We as a people have been set back and continue to be set back ALL BECAUSE OF FEAR! Pardon my language but it is needed. FUCK THAT SHIT!!!!

In life WE have a choice to LIVE! When it comes time to die, and we ALL have a number waiting to be called, we will not have the choice. Do not allow any of the living to stop you from LIVING yourself.  Again, this keynote has nothing to do with a previous one that states “The hardest thing in life to do, is live it!”. This explained that we don’t live life to our fullest of enjoying it because we are busy trying to survive. However, in this keynote I am urging you to LIVE. REALLY LIVE IN PURPOSE and WITHOUT FEAR!

Stand up for what you believe in. Love how you wish. Speak on subjects you feel strong about. Support the organizations that represent you. Go to the places you care to see. Share the stories you were made to share. Go through the struggle. Fight the fight. Win the race. LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!! By living your life, you inspire, you motivate, you make changes. Changes that maybe you will not be alive to see, that’s the point. By living you made a mark in the future for your loved ones, family, empire, your legacy. By choosing life today without fear, you have set the mark to live LONG before YOUR GONE. This is a choice only YOU can make. Sure your breathing, but, are YOU LIVING? No not paying bills, eating good foods, great sex, a party here and there. I’m asking you! ARE YOU LIVING! YOU DON”T HEAR ME! ARE YOU LIVING?

You know as I type this I realize there are no words really to take this to another level to really get you to understand this keynote. If I can be honest I am actually becoming very emotional and exhausted. This keynote really speaks for itself! Before I close this keynote post out I do want to share a story of one of the survivors of the Orlando massacre, that also has relevance to this keynotes meaning. Summed up, Demetrice Naulings says he was with his best friend Eddie Justice during the shooting where they both ran into the bathroom. Eddie, Scared holding on to Demetrice’s hand says stay with me “don’t let my hand go”. This is during the time Demetrice is explaining he feels unsafe in the bathroom and WE should get out. As the shots get closer, Demetrice decides to run out of the bathroom and not look back. As heartless as it appears, HE made a choice to LIVE. Run and try his best to survive instead of staying trapped in the corner of a bathroom. When it came to life they both had a choice to LIVE by trying to escape. Demetrice survived. Eddie, RIP, did not. I am not saying that it was either of their destiny, that’s not my place, I am saying though YOU have to choose life and know when to save yourself.

Readers please forgive me. This blog post is all over the place. I originally had structure and then became so passionate about this subject and lost the main focus. I don’t know how to feel in this moment. So many babies. SO MANY YOUNG BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE living their lives were not given a choice in a single moment. I can’t. I will not! I can’t live THIS life anymore in fear. I will not allow these names to go in vain! They were people just like you and I…… filled with life, sin, if you will, pain, struggle, laughter, love, hurt, emotion. They wanted to dance, love, laugh, LIVE! They had the choice all the way up to 2am and later on JUNE 12th 2016. That choice was taken from them. OR WAS IT! I say no. It was their death that was chosen for them. PEOPLE, LIVE WHILE YOU CAN!

BE Alive and live a life worth living. A life that allows others to live in fullness as they watched you live a full life. Do NOT be afraid. Let nothing set or hold you back. SUPPORT, LOVE, SHARE, UPLIFT, INSPIRE, SPEAK OUT, SPEAK UP, STAND TALL, HOLD FAST and FIRM. LIVE! NOW, while you have the choice. You never know when your life will end, or in many cases these day, be taken from you. Worry not about the last statement because death isn’t a choice….BUT LIFE SURE IS!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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You have been asked to a dinner on Friday night @ 8pm. You of course you say yes. You have nothing to do currently, why not. Next someone asks you to perform at an event that starts @ 10pm. Sure you say. I mean hello you want to display your talents anyway you can. Saturday morning, don’t forget your boss asked you to work overtime. You want to look good for the boss and you need the money.  It’s a beautiful day when you get off work, better head to the beach with your friends because they asked you to meet up with them last week and you said YES! Saturday night rolls around and guess what, your girlfriend/boyfriend wants a night out with you on the town. That’s your boo, NO is not an option. Sunday comes. You are invited to brunch. Who doesn’t like good food and unlimited drinks? YES, YES, YESSSSSSSS. Sunday afternoon, dance recital, later, this, then that, then everything. All of these yeses, but do you realize you just told your body NO you can’t have rest. You also have set yourself up for possibly not committing and having to cancel because of time restraints or just simply doing more than you can handle. BE Selective and know what YOU can handle and commit to. It’s okay to have to sometimes say NO. it’s better to keep a realistic lifestyle, than to pretend like you can truly be stretched beyond superman/woman powers. People know your worth, talent, capabilities. If they truly do, they will ask again for your time, talent, help, company, whatever. You will have opportunities to say YES. Know when you must say no for the sake of your health and being burned out.

Okay, so maybe these things above do not apply to YOU. How about the following?

Your kids ask you for a special toy and it costs not too much, but enough to notice. Next your sibling needs help with a bill. Charity calls for a donation. Mom/dad need money for whatever (bad example, hello they are your parents). Friends want to go out and discover that they are short a few bucks (yeah right JUST DISCOVERED that, lol). You come across a sale at your favorite clothing store. Your girlfriend/boyfriend want to go to six flags this weekend. Yes…. YES of course. Yes…and more YES! Ummmmmm NO! Now your broke, can’t pay a few bills, have to move some funds around elsewhere and everyone expects you to always come through, not to mention, now they think your rich! BE Selective. Know when to tell people no. Know your limits. If people stop liking you because you can’t come through financially or any other way for them all the time then they are not really worth keeping in your close circle anyway. My opinion. This is all my opinion.

I am not saying don’t be there for people. It is very important to share and help and spend time and display your talents. However, you have to BE Selective in knowing what you can truly handle mentally, physically, emotionally. Also ask this. Are you a yes man but always hearing NO from these same people? Ask your toddler to sit down and be still. Not all but some will flat out say no. Yet, you say yes to everything they want. You are always showing up at events for others, supporting them for everything under the moon. Yet, when you call them because you need a little heart to heart time, they’re busy. You get it. I don’t want to be negative for too long.  Besides, if people are used to you saying yes all the time, they won’t know how to accept your no’s. It can get ugly.

Even with yourself you have to be able to tell yourself NO and know when Yes is ok. Over drinking, over partying. Eating too much bad foods. Over sleeping and snoozing constantly making you late for work. Buying every item you MUST HAVE that’s ON SALE. Then later, you complain about your kidneys hurting, You’re gaining weight, your upset because your boss is down your throat, All of your credit cards are maxed out. Hello!!! I Said HELLO! Know when to say no. Not right now. I guarantee that as long as you’re are alive there will be other opportunities for you to say YES.

BE Selective, Selective in a good way. Know when something is too much for you to handle and say NO. Know if you don’t want to put out because it’s too emotionally discharging for you even if he is cute, you can say NO. Your kids will not die if you say NO. Don’t break commitments because you have said too many yeses! Don’t sell yourself short by telling everyone around you yes and yourself NO. Most importantly. Keep in mind that as you have the right to say NO, and you do, Be Ready and understand others will also tell you no. Don’t take it too personal. The are only Being Selective.

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

 

 

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Cookie Jar. High on the top shelf. A Baby. Well Toddler. About 3 or 4 years old. Realizes the cookie jar is too high to reach, after attempting to magically stretch their arms further than they truly go while balancing on itty bitty toes.  Next they grab a chair and start climbing on counters, shelves until they reach what they want. Sometimes they fall, many times they find another way, if one way proves too hard. They could have just asked, yet they might have been told no. This is what they are afraid of, rejection.

Something is stuck in a tree or on a roof, we grab ladders or long sticks to get to the item. That short sentence is better than another story I was about to create but you get it right?

Then why are WE not getting the concept in real life? Rejection? One of the first feelings we feel in life and sometimes one of the hardest things to deal with.

I play like I’m okay with rejection. Usually shrug it off with a sarcastic remark or saying eh it wasn’t what I REALLY wanted or needed anyway. Then. I usually gave up and found something to replace what I really wanted or needed. Whether a job, a role in a show, whatever.

Truth is you are going to have to learn to deal with rejection because whether you think you will avoid it or not at some point in life and more times than once you will be rejected. This is important to accept as we move into the actual keynote.

There is a possibility that you do everything on your own. Like the baby. They found a chair, placed it next to a counter that got them to a shelf and climbed it. They used their resources. Let’s shift things into adulthood. Okay so a child is stuck in a tree. You cannot reach the child from the ground. You grab a ladder. The ladder gets you closer but still a bit short of reaching the child. Okay so you grab a stick. You hit the child out of the tree with the stick and pray they don’t get hurt when they hit the ground. Great, you used a few resources but come on. Was it safe? Done correctly? Did you really use ALL of your resources? The suffix of the word is FUL which is basically short for Full.  Yes, you got the child out of the tree but now you’ve possibly caused a few hospital bills, trauma to the child’s life, or maybe even end up in jail for abuse (pursed lips). Why weren’t you resourceFUL? Couldn’t you have called the fire department and boom the child is safe and the task is complete the correct way?

The things we want in life will at times be hard to reach. Sometimes quite easy. In any situation, BE Resourceful in getting what you want or need in life. Go to school to obtain certificates/degrees. Take a dance/acting class. Participate in workshops. Get the education, the training, the motivation you need to gain what you want in life. Most importantly DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. In order to open up a business you need funding. In order for your online company to grow you need customers. In order to be a social media celebrity, you need followers. Ask creditors, banks, friends, family for financial help. Make business cards and special offers to gain customers. Ask people to follow you or maybe post half nude photos to attract them (my man is going to kill me after thinking this is what I do) lol. Just do things the right way. The honest way.The complete way.

The simple point is in order to reach somethings in life we have to BE Resourceful and realize it can’t always be done independently.

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

 

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