Monthly Archives: May 2016

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Imagine. Your hanging from a cliff. At the bottom waiting for you is sharp rocks, a pit of rattle snakes, DEATH. If you can be saved, waiting for you is your family, love and purpose (yes, we all have a purpose), LIFE! The only person in front of you is that person who hurt you so bad, talks about you behind your back, YOUR BIGGEST ENEMY. Chances are deep inside you’d probably rather fall then allow that person the satisfactory of saving you. Truth is, if faced with death, actually in the situation, WE would reach for any helping hand, even if it wasn’t quite genuine.

If your enemy was hanging from the same cliff and there was anything humane about you, you too would offer a hand. I mean we know karma is real and no one deserves to die and by letting someone die when you had the power to save them is only setting an appointment with karma herself. I mean I’m not saying you would enjoy saving them. If you are anything like me you would be mumbling under your breath, rolling your eyes, and second guessing your heroic attempts. These days I whisper to myself, it’s not about YOU, help them despite what they have put you through. This is a great example of BEing Magnanimous!

MAGNANIMOUS: Someone who is big hearted. A Person that can show an over-sized spirit by being noble or brave, or easily forgiving others and not showing resentment.

BIG WORD! BIG DEFINITION….Makes you a BIG PERSON!

I’m not saying you have to forget what was done to you. You don’t have to even be friends, but keeping ish going and allowing one to be an enemy is giving that person dominion over a part of you. Not healthy for many reasons. Unwanted or needed stress. Pain that won’t go away. Open wounds. The chance that you may someday need them and or they you.

You don’t see it now, but you never know. You don’t know why someone was brought into your life. Though it could have just been that season and their purpose was to teach you a lesson that your better than how they treated you or what they have done to you. What if they are scheduled for a new season to save you. Or vise-versa! We don’t know. We won’t know. I just know personally I don’t want to find out when it’s too late.

Okay so they did you totally wrong. It’s not okay but it is what it is. Forgive, let it go, move forward. BE Kind, BE Mature, BE In Control. Most of all BE Magnanimous. They might have f&^@ed up a part of your life, but you never know if their true purpose later is to save YOUR LIFE!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

 

  

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Devils Advocate? NOPE! I have never worked for him and will never, however, this keynote is going to make it appear as if I set you up on the last keynote, BE Happy.

So did you get a chance to stand in the mirror and laugh at yourself for not being in control of your happiness? While you were in the mirror did you really take a look at yourself? No, not at how pretty or handsome you were, not the scars or impurities on your face, nothing like that. I mean a deep look! Into who you really are! Well, if you just answered yes then…YOU ARE NOT BEIING HONEST. The real mirror, reflection of you per say, is in your life. The things that are happening in your life. The people that surround you in life. Your outcomes.

Have you ever been that person that says my friends don’t really care about me?   “They are never there for me the way I am there for them”. “Why do I always get cheated on”? “All men are dogs”! You know these sayings along with many more.

Do you also know the saying, “your vibe attracts your tribe”? Well it’s a true statement. Although it doesn’t stand true alone. I’ll explain that in the next paragraph. What you put out is 9 times out of 10 what you will get back. You want true love, BE true love. You want solid friendship, BE a solid friend. Okay you’ve heard this before.

Let me explain how the vibe/tribe statement in my opinion doesn’t stand true alone. You see although most times what you put out you will get back but in two situations this may not be true. You see, there are still evil, malicious people out in the world who will be attracted by your good intentions and feed off of you. It’s okay! It’s just important that you BE Aware of these people. As your reflection is shown in a mirror, so is theirs. Know and be able to identify these people. Once you identify them, don’t go all crazy on them. Remember you still have a reflection to maintain. They just need a little checking. If that doesn’t help you simply move away from that person. Just remember, just like you deserve a chance or two in life they do as well.  The other situation is when you are not being authentic or genuine with your actions. We as humans many times say what we think people want to hear or do what they want us to do. People pleasers if you will. That phony, just doing it to get by persona will haunt you. I promise. You set yourself up for being used and abused and it may not even be intentional.

I am so guilty of this. How many times I’ve said,” I’m so lonely, no one ever sticks around or checks on me or truly loves me”. “It’s okay I don’t need anyone anyway”. Say this next part with me from memory, “I came in this world alone, I can live it alone. Well, life has been my reflection. I am still blessed with a few friends who have stuck around regardless of my reflection. Truth though, I’m getting exactly what I have put out. I haven’t been calling to check on anyone, I’m quick to cut someone from my life. I’m not always open and authentic with people. Well, I shouldn’t say I’m not because I have a new commitment to BE BEtter! In just a few moments time, my reflection of what I’m putting out is truly coming back to me.

Also and lastly BE Aware of your body language and reactions to things. It too plays a role on what you reflect. When given “feedback” or advice, do you roll your eyes? Do you cross your arms, slouch your shoulders, huff and puff (okay big bad wolf), interrupt and cut people off when they are talking? Do you become condescending, sarcastic, quick to backlash when something doesn’t go your way or you feel offended and get defensive? UMMMMM liar! I DO! Admitting is the first step sweetie! When I get like that I see the impact it has. It makes things worst. BAD BAD! I have come to realize, although it’s hard sometimes and I still fail, that I can change the outcome of an argument or disagreement by BEing Aware of my actions and taking responsibility for my words and body language and the emotion and feelings that I am contributing to the situation. For the most part I am seeing great results in my life from this change in self.

BE Aware of your reflection in the mirror. Only you really can show who you truly are. You are the representative alone for YOU. You are your reflection in the mirror. Haven’t you had enough bad luck in life? Well don’t let your mirror break, you know what they say. 7 more years!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

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Sometimes in life we experience traumatic events that cause us to feel low, sad, angry, over it. Death of a love one, a bad break up between lovers or friends, losing your job, etc. It is most expected to feel and show some emotions and for a long period of time.

Most of the time our moods or emotions of being sad, hurt, angry, come from things we hold on to. Example, ever been in an argument with someone and brought up something they did during the last confrontation that YOU supposedly forgave them for? I have, I DO, and this is simply because you haven’t let go of it and if I can be real, you haven’t forgiven them. I’m not saying anyone is wrong for holding on to something and being in their heads about the same shit that has been holding them back, well not in this Keynote, I’m just saying we shouldn’t dwell on that crap every day, all day.

Dwelling only allows the feeling to manifest and grow into a deeper feeling. A feeling we then find hard to shake loose. It then shows up on our faces. Permanent angry indentions, locked clinched jaws, frowns, wrinkles.

It’s important to take a break from these feelings. Actually, you should find a way to forgive and move on from it but if for some reason you can’t at this time, then take a break! Find a way to BE Happy. Call a friend who is super silly that you can rely on to give you comedy in a conversation and instead of complaining about your issues and emotions let the conversation be about something good that has happened currently in your life. Google a joke or a few until you are cracking up and then share the joke with a friend and laugh together! Do you have friends with little babies, a little family member you can hang out with and play with? Children these days have so much spunk and say some of the silliest yet realest things ever. GO LAUGH WITH THEM! Watch a comedy show, a comedy movie, hell, look in damn mirror and laugh at yourself for being so silly and forgetting that you are in charge of your feelings and emotions and have the right to choose to BE Happy!

It’s to be upset, angry, sad, hurt, down, whatever but IT’S VERY IMPORTANT TO BE HAPPY! Life is going to do what it does and throw some frowns your way but it also throws smiles! Catch some smiles and BE Happy!

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!

Keone Dent

 

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YOU are going to die! Everyone will one day die! There is no way to escape this fact.

You have heard the saying, “Everyone dies but not everyone lives”. Truth is everyone should live! EVERYONE! Every single person on this earth right now breathing matters, has a purpose, and deserves to live!

Many times we are selfish! Not the BE Selfish I posted before but SEEEEEELLLFISH! As long as we are living and accomplishing the things we have set out to do, we are satisfied or rather content. But really it’s not about YOU, and in reality YOU are NOT LIVING. Not to your fullest anyway.

Think of how many times you’ve said to yourself, “no one is ever there for me”, “I don’t need anyone”, and everything else WE say in times of feeling alone in our process of “living”. How many others are saying the same thing? How many other people in this same race of “living” are becoming selfish and creating the lie in their lives that only what they set out to do or accomplish matters? If this continues then the entire world will soon be only breathing, not LIVING, and eventually will die.

Now think of your accomplishments, think of how many things you have done in life already “on your own” (can’t wait to wake you up about independence and how YOU’RE not really independent, that’s another Keynote I digress). Degrees you have obtained. Workshops you’ve attended. The trips you’ve taken to see the world. All of your accomplishments in life that gave you a lesson, allowed you to grow, and gave you LIFE. Then you Die. Where do your accomplishments go? Where does all the knowledge you’ve gained go? The Trips you went on that inspired you. Are they still inspiring YOU six feet under ground or in an urn? I’ve never been physically dead so I don’t have the facts about what you can and can’t use once you’re dead but I think we can agree that from what we know it all stops for us. It shouldn’t have to stop for those who are still breathing. They still matter, still have a purpose, and since you, the perfect person who has ALL OF THEIR SHIT TOGETHER, is dead and took everything with you. LOL! EXACTLY You CAN’T take it with you. It’s meant to be passed on!

No one helped you though! You Poor baby! What a victim you are! So you decided not to be a victim and motivate yourself to being all you can be and do anything possible to make your dreams and goals reality. You found the courage, you found the strength, the ability to move forward out of your funk and into LIFE. WHO CARES! Who F#@$ing CARES! Good for you. You did it. NOW what? I’ll tell you what BE Uplifting and remind others they matter. Remind them they too can do it. Help them find their way. Be there for others as “no one” was there for you and you know all too well how it feels to not have anyone uplifting you. BE Uplifting to others so that they will eventually do the same and we can start a trend that matters. Not a trend of skinny jeans, high ponytails, baggy joggers, and fades with designs. Yet, trends that matter. That changes the way WE are living and encourages others to LIVE!

If you are still the victim who feels you are not worthy or simply don’t matter, think about where that came from. Does it come from your jealous peers who can see that you do mean something but they feel just like you do so they want to have you join them in their misery of not living? Is it because you tried something new and failed? Is it because you compared your worth to someone else’s and figured they had a greater purpose than you do? Maybe you set out to do something someone else was doing and thought, since they are already doing it I don’t have to or it doesn’t matter if I do. LIES, LIES, LIES, F@#$ing LIES! YOU matter. If no one is there uplifting you and encouraging you to LIVE then do it for yourself…. BUT don’t forget once you get it, pass it on. Uplift someone else. CREATE THE TREND.

It is so very important to BE Uplifting! Uplifting self and others. We are a team! Within this team we all play different roles that gets results. Changes outcomes, Heals, Spreads LOVE, Gives LIFE! Find your role, play it. Help others to find their roles, encourage them to play it! This will eventually allow the entire world to win! It may not bring peace to the entire human race. It may not “change” all that is happening in the world. You may not see many results during your time on earth (lets be real even I can die within the next stroke of these computer keys) but what you do and what you leave behind will be tools that others can use while still in this game of life and that’s what it about…. Did you just hear that? Did you take that part in…. Let me sum it up. BE Uplifting and encourage everyone around you, do this, and even after your physically dead, YOUR STILL LIVING!

 

BElieve, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE

Keone Dent

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