It is absolutely disgusting how much WE have become a take take take people. So selfish. I say WE including myself. “You don’t love me because you don’t grab my hand”. “Come over here and love on me”. “If you do me a favor, I will….”.
Just about a year ago I remember sitting in the living room feeling sorry for myself. Feeling Lonely. Thinking to myself how I don’t have family here in New York, not many real friends physically here (most I’ve made through my aviation job, so they usually aren’t around when I am). I started to cry. The person I was dating at the time asked me. “What’s wrong”? Of course I cried harder and explained how I don’t get hugs. No One hugs me! No one ever invites me out. No one really even calls me. As I was talking my stomach was turning in grossness to hear myself. First of all Iwas throwing a pity party (past keynote explains how much I love those parties, BARF). It hit me really hard in the face. You want company? Invite them out. You want a phone convo? Call someone. You need a hug? Give a Hug. Make sure they know you and like you, otherwise be prepared to maybe be turned down and stared at crazy. Honestly though even when I have hugged strangers (usually when I’m intoxicated) 9 times out of 10 I get a hug back. It’s natural.
I know it doesn’t feel the greatest to always be the person who initiates things but I feel if we stay consistent with our initiation it will become a habit for others in our lives to want to start being the one who shows kind gestures to you, before you.
“I am not going to give her any of my candy because she never gives me any when she has it”! GROW UP! BE Giving and give genuinely and I guarantee it will start coming back to you. Maybe not from the person you are giving to but somehow it will be paid back. Remember to BE altruistic when giving (past keynote that means give without expecting something in return). Unless it’s a hug. Give hugs and pretty much you will be hugged back and if you are not hugged back, don’t worry he/she may just be bitter in life and it’s not your fault. Come see me I love to give hugs and I think I’m one of the best huggers.
Believe, BE Free, BE YOUtiful…BE!